I’d like to say that December only brings cozy opportunities for family bonding and reflecting on the meaning of the season. The reality is, however, that we are bombarded with long lists of things to do. And the list is only part of the problem. The tightened purse strings make it feel even more difficult to shower people with love.
If you’d like this coming December to be different, you can! Here are 7 ideas to show your children how much you love them without throwing out your list or digging deeper in your pockets.
1) Read To Them
This is about more than homework reading assignments. This is about time and bonding. There are few things more special than reading a book with your little (or not so little) one. Take 10 minutes, because usually, that’s about all it takes, and snuggle up. Get close, grab a blanket, and share a great Christmas story. You can find plenty at the library to enjoy together. You can even wrap a library book for a special surprise. Some of our family’s favorite books are:
- The Littlest Angel by Charles Tazewell
- The Christmas Miracle of Jonathan Toomey by Susan Wojciechowski
- Jacob’s Gift by Max Lucado
2) Have A Winter Picnic
Who says picnics are just for summertime? Not kids!
Make some hot chocolate or some tea and put it in a thermos. Bundle up and head outside with a big blanket or two and some mugs. You don’t have to go anywhere fancy; we’ve even done this on our back deck! Just enjoy being together in the fresh air.
The kids may give you a crazy look at first, but giggles are soon to follow. For an extra special treat, try doing this under the stars.
3) Enjoying A Candlight Dinner
Think about what everyday life was like when Jesus was born. Enjoy dinner by candlelight and feel how peaceful it can be to sit by the warm glow of a flickering flame.
Kids are sure to love blowing out the candles when you’re done… so make sure to have a candle for each child!
4) Give A “Gift For A Day”
Before you think this involves reaching for your wallet, keep reading.
My kids are almost always asking to use something that belongs to my husband or me. Maybe it is a lip gloss or a flashlight or a tool. It could be a pretty scarf or even a special mug.
Wrap up the coveted item and give it to your child with a note reading, “This is something of Mommy’s that is usually just for me. I’d like for you to use it today because you are special as can be.”
5) Bake Together
The holidays usually have us mixing and baking at some point. Take some extra time and hand over the wooden spoon.
Sure, it may take longer. Yes, it will be messier. But letting children help shows that you value their abilities and that they are more important than a stress-filled to-do list.
And I’ve never met a child (young or old) who doesn’t like to lick the spoon!
6) Enjoy The Lights
Few things evoke squeals like twinkling Christmas lights. You don’t have to make a big night of searching for lights (although that’s fun too!). Just take time to enjoy the ones you see.
Maybe take a different route home from basketball so you can see the great lights on the street you don’t usually drive on. Go a block or two out of your way to drive by the town tree.
If little ones cry, “I didn’t get to see it,” like mine sometimes do, make a quick U-turn and go back by again. You’ll only lose minutes, but it adds up to them. And the squeals are worth it!
7) Designate Family Movie Time
Christmas is filled with all kinds of movies. Whether you’re looking for something funny or heartwarming, taking an evening and watching a Christmas movie together is a memory worth making.
Bonding occurs when you sit together and enjoy a holiday movie. So don’t worry about addressing the Christmas cards for a night. No one will remember when they got the card anyway.
A tradition of the family watching a Christmas movie together will be held dear for years to come. Whether it’s Buddy the Elf, Charlie Brown, or It’s A Wonderful Life, you’ll feel good knowing you took the time to be together.
These are just a few of the ways we’ve been able to show our children love and create memorable family Christmases without spending a dime.
Rebecca is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.